How to Identify Other Swingers

If you think that you may be in the presence of a swinger, then you will need to make sure that you know the different things that you can do to figure it out. A lot of people that are around other swingers typically don’t even know that they are. Many swingers will end up leading double lives because they do not want certain people knowing that they swing. This means that they are very good at pretending that they are not swingers at all.

Talk About It

If you happen to be having a conversation with people that you suspect are swingers, then you should casually bring up the subject. You will find that whenever you mention swinging if the people are actually swingers they will usually have a strong reaction to the subject being brought up. If they do not want to be found out, then they will often begin to fidget and act uncomfortable. Others may end up opening up and wanting to discuss it with you further. If you find the person getting uncomfortable, then drop the subject, chances are they are not going to tell you if they are.


If you happen to be talking to a couple that you suspect swings then pay attention to how they react to other couples. See if they both happen to check out people in the same way that a single person would. See if they approach or how they approach other couples. Couples that are swingers will usually want to swing with other couples.

Edited: June 3rd, 2011

Taking the Path Towards Swinging

Whenever you are taking the path towards swinging you are going to need to make sure that you don’t jump right in. It may be a good idea for you to just start slowly and go from there. Many people think that they can handle swinging only to find that it is not for them. Make sure that you know for sure if this is something that you can handle before you get too deep into it. Swinging can be a lot of fun if you know how to go about it.

Start Slow

Always make sure that you start slowly. Whether you are in a couple or single you should make sure that you let other people know that you are new to swinging. They will be a lot more forgiving of any nervousness that you are feeling and will more than likely be willing to help you through it. Don’t ever try to rush yourself whenever you are trying swinging out for the first time.

As a Couple

If you and your partner are interested in swinging, then it is a good idea for you to thoroughly discuss it. You both should be in it 100%. If one of you is just doing it for the sake of the other, then it will probably not work. You should set some ground rules to start out with and then go from there.  A lot of people will end up feeling more comfortable if they and their partner have boundaries when they are first getting started.

Edited: March 1st, 2011

Introducing a Guest into your Bedroom to Swing

Whenever you are introducing a guest into your bedroom to swing you are going to need to make sure that both you and your partner are prepared. This is something that can be a very sexy and fun experience as long as you both approach it in a way that is going to be healthy and fun. You need to be sure that both you and your partner are able to fully understand and be okay with the situation at hand. Don’t try to talk your partner into it if they are not willing. It can end up ruining your relationship if you don’t talk it out.


It is so important that you set boundaries. You and your partner need to talk about what you both feel comfortable doing and what you feel comfortable with the new guest doing. This is something that can end up making a situation a lot better. You will find that whenever you both talk it out and decide what is allowed and what is not you can still keep the trust alive. A lot of couples will have difficulty trusting each other after an experience like this unless they have some sort of boundaries.

You need to be sure that you tell the new guest these boundaries and that they understand them. Be forgiving if they slip up. It can be difficult in the heat of the moment to remember what rules you are supposed to follow. However, if you and your partner stand firm and stay with these boundaries and rules you will find that you can still be happy and intimate even when you are alone.

Edited: December 31st, 2010