How to Identify Other Swingers

If you think that you may be in the presence of a swinger, then you will need to make sure that you know the different things that you can do to figure it out. A lot of people that are around other swingers typically don’t even know that they are. Many swingers will end up leading double lives because they do not want certain people knowing that they swing. This means that they are very good at pretending that they are not swingers at all.

Talk About It

If you happen to be having a conversation with people that you suspect are swingers, then you should casually bring up the subject. You will find that whenever you mention swinging if the people are actually swingers they will usually have a strong reaction to the subject being brought up. If they do not want to be found out, then they will often begin to fidget and act uncomfortable. Others may end up opening up and wanting to discuss it with you further. If you find the person getting uncomfortable, then drop the subject, chances are they are not going to tell you if they are.

Couples

If you happen to be talking to a couple that you suspect swings then pay attention to how they react to other couples. See if they both happen to check out people in the same way that a single person would. See if they approach or how they approach other couples. Couples that are swingers will usually want to swing with other couples.

Posted: June 3rd, 2011 under General - No Comments.

Girlfriend Wants to Attend an Orgy

If your girlfriend wants to attend an orgy, then you are going to need to make sure that you are both fully prepared for what to expect. A lot of people will end up freaking out at the last minute and not being able to participate. This is why it is a good idea for both you and your girlfriend to come together and talk it out so that you can both feel comfortable and have a good time whenever you attend the orgy.

Boundaries

It is usually a good idea for you both to set some boundaries with each other. You may want to tell her no oral and she may want to tell you that you can’t orgasm with anybody else. Whatever your rules or boundaries may be you will need to be sure that you can both follow and stick with these boundaries so that you can keep the trust.

Safety

Always be sure that you are both careful and that condoms are always used. Even if she is on birth control she can end up getting an STD if she does not use other forms of protection. Make sure that you can keep her safe and that you can keep yourself safe. Always bring condoms whenever you are going to an orgy. Even if you know that there will be some there.

Online

Go online to try to find where the hottest orgies are in your area. You will need to be sure that you know the area that you are going to and that you feel comfortable with the people that you are meeting.

Posted: May 29th, 2011 under Relationship advice for swingers, Swinging Articles - No Comments.

What to do When Swinging as a Threesome

When it comes to things that you can do when swinging as a threesome, you will need to make sure that you understand your options. A lot of people that are new to swinging and threesomes will end up getting nervous and awkward because they do not know what to do. You will find that this is something that can all be remedied as soon as you know how to go about having a good time.

Following the Lead

It is usually a good idea for you to follow the lead if you are new to all of this. You will find that whenever somebody else is more experienced you can simply follow their lead. This is a great way for you to feel more comfortable and start off slowly. You can go from there and end up having a really good time whenever you get yourself started slowly enough to understand what is going on.

Take Control

Sometimes taking control of the situation is something that can really end up helping you to have a good time. Think about what you want to do and simply do it. Chances are you have had sex before so just go about it like you normally would. Just try not to leave anybody out. You will find that taking charge can be just enough of an adrenaline boost to get you really into it.

Have Fun

Remember, this is supposed to be a fun and sexy experience. Don’t allow nerves or anything like that to get in the way of the fun that you should be having. A lot of people will end up freezing up and not having a good time because of nerves.

Posted: April 28th, 2011 under Relationship advice for swingers, Swinging Articles - No Comments.

Taking the Path Towards Swinging

Whenever you are taking the path towards swinging you are going to need to make sure that you don’t jump right in. It may be a good idea for you to just start slowly and go from there. Many people think that they can handle swinging only to find that it is not for them. Make sure that you know for sure if this is something that you can handle before you get too deep into it. Swinging can be a lot of fun if you know how to go about it.

Start Slow

Always make sure that you start slowly. Whether you are in a couple or single you should make sure that you let other people know that you are new to swinging. They will be a lot more forgiving of any nervousness that you are feeling and will more than likely be willing to help you through it. Don’t ever try to rush yourself whenever you are trying swinging out for the first time.

As a Couple

If you and your partner are interested in swinging, then it is a good idea for you to thoroughly discuss it. You both should be in it 100%. If one of you is just doing it for the sake of the other, then it will probably not work. You should set some ground rules to start out with and then go from there.  A lot of people will end up feeling more comfortable if they and their partner have boundaries when they are first getting started.

Posted: March 1st, 2011 under General, Swinging Articles - No Comments.

When a Threesome with Another Swing Has Caused Jealously

If you have just had a threesome with another swinger and it has caused jealousy, then this is actually pretty common. A lot of swingers have had difficulty being able to feel comfortable whenever they have to share the person that they have sex with. Be it a partner or just a person that they occasionally sleep with it can be difficult. It is natural for people to become territorial with a person that they have slept with so be sure that you can keep your feelings and theirs in check.

Talk it Out

It is a good idea to talk it out with the jealous party. Talk to them alone. This is the best way for you to make them feel special and like you care. You can hear them out and try to explain to them why they should or shouldn’t feel that way. Just be sure that you are kind with them, even if you don’t know them very well. Jealousy is something that can be very painful and difficult to go through so the more compassionate you are the better.

Boundaries

It is a good idea for you to set boundaries. You will find that whenever you only do things with a certain person and nobody else that it can really help with jealousy. Whenever you allow your partner to have sex with other people, then it can take away from the specialness of your relationship. Whenever you have something that just the two of you do. it can really do wonders with these feelings that you will have.

Posted: February 10th, 2011 under Relationship advice for swingers - No Comments.

Introducing a Guest into your Bedroom to Swing

Whenever you are introducing a guest into your bedroom to swing you are going to need to make sure that both you and your partner are prepared. This is something that can be a very sexy and fun experience as long as you both approach it in a way that is going to be healthy and fun. You need to be sure that both you and your partner are able to fully understand and be okay with the situation at hand. Don’t try to talk your partner into it if they are not willing. It can end up ruining your relationship if you don’t talk it out.

Boundaries

It is so important that you set boundaries. You and your partner need to talk about what you both feel comfortable doing and what you feel comfortable with the new guest doing. This is something that can end up making a situation a lot better. You will find that whenever you both talk it out and decide what is allowed and what is not you can still keep the trust alive. A lot of couples will have difficulty trusting each other after an experience like this unless they have some sort of boundaries.

You need to be sure that you tell the new guest these boundaries and that they understand them. Be forgiving if they slip up. It can be difficult in the heat of the moment to remember what rules you are supposed to follow. However, if you and your partner stand firm and stay with these boundaries and rules you will find that you can still be happy and intimate even when you are alone.

Posted: December 31st, 2010 under General, Swinging Articles - No Comments.